Loosing a Friend- how to get over it

I was really close to this girl and we were friends for a few months. We really connected. We started out in a business venture and well it didn't work out. When the business closed she had a list of complaints of things I did wrong and no longer wanted to be friends anymore.

I was really devastated. I am trying to move on but it is still rather painful. What are your tips for moving on after you have lost a friend?

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Permalink Reply by Nicole Nikki Leigh Sonnier on September 17, 2011 at 12:39pm

If a business venture gone wrong was enough to destroy the friendship, there wasn't much that could have held it together anyway. Let it go! Get out, meet new people!

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Permalink Reply by Janiera Eldridge on September 17, 2011 at 6:41pm

That is true, I talked to her for the last time today so I am ready to move on.

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Permalink Reply by Jenna Corinne Hardin on September 17, 2011 at 7:05pm

That's so hard. I guess you just have to treat it like a break up. Meeting new people would be great for you... I wish you lived in Austin so you could come out to our Sunday Fundays. You might even want to consider making one for ladies in FL? I feel for you girl, I take broken friendships to heart... I hope the recovery time for you isn't too long.

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Permalink Reply by Nicole Moulton on September 17, 2011 at 10:20pm

I have realized in my life that some friendships are for a season and also that not every person you call a "friend" is really a friend. Many times you find out who your friends are when the storms roll in and things aren't good either in your life or you have a conflict with them. I would let it go, and know that there is 165 women on this network that would love to get to know you and be your friend. And there are many that live near you! You are intelligent and kind and beautiful...you will not have a problem finding a true friend! So, don't worry about it, this too shall pass.

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Permalink Reply by Janiera Eldridge on September 17, 2011 at 10:48pm

Thank you so much Jenna and Nicole for your kind words. That is a great idea for starting a a meet up for the women in Florida Jenna!! You are so right about people being around for a season. I have had a lot of things that are finally starting to workout so I am putting it behind me and look for bigger and better things (and people). :)

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Permalink Reply by Erin Oltersdorf on September 18, 2011 at 8:41am

I have to agree with everyone. If she wasn't willing to even try to work things through with you, then she probably did you a favor. That is not what friendships are all about. :-) Sounds like you already have a good attitude about this situation though! :-)

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Permalink Reply by Jennifer Barnes on September 27, 2011 at 10:41pm

There's a reason there's a saying about never mixing business with friendship ... I'm finding that a joint business venture with a friend of mine has become very stressful as well. We are both aware of it's affect on our friendship and are making time to be friends without working. IT IS POSSIBLY THE HARDEST THING I'VE EVER DONE! WOW! I can just say that it's super duper hard to maintain that, even when things are going well. I can't imagine how hard it was on you to have things fall through and then come to find out that the friendship didn't weather the storm.

I agree 100% with Nicole and wanted to add that time does heal some wounds. Years from now you might find yourself on more neutral ground with her and be able to enjoy a pleasant interaction again. :) Life is crazy and sometimes you just bob along and let the current carry you while you get your bearings.

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Permalink Reply by Sonia on October 8, 2011 at 8:52pm

I have had some friends in my life that dissolved the relationship with me as well, but one thing my mother always told me: don't be friends with no one that doesn't want to be friends with you. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff.

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Permalink Reply by Janiera Eldridge on October 9, 2011 at 4:42pm

so true, i recently made two new great friends. Will never be giving into that again.

Sonia said:

I have had some friends in my life that dissolved the relationship with me as well, but one thing my mother always told me: don't be friends with no one that doesn't want to be friends with you. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff.

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Permalink Reply by Kelley Rogers on December 6, 2011 at 7:52pm

I have to say that everyone's responses are so great and supportive. That is what HER is all about! Losing a friend, and the emotions surrounding, to me, is just like grieving for any loss. There are times that you can rationalize the loss, know that you may be better off, yet, there can be time to grieve just the same. I especially think that it is easier when you realize that the person does not possess the level of friendship that you offer....if they aren't willing to talk and work things out! I think it's important to value yourself enough that you know it is their loss! I am currently working through some losses that occured many years ago, but never gave myself permission to grieve. Give yourself permission to grieve & permission to move on!