I was really close to this girl and we were friends for a few months. We really connected. We started out in a business venture and well it didn't work out. When the business closed she had a list of complaints of things I did wrong and no longer wanted to be friends anymore.
I was really devastated. I am trying to move on but it is still rather painful. What are your tips for moving on after you have lost a friend?
Thank you so much Jenna and Nicole for your kind words. That is a great idea for starting a a meet up for the women in Florida Jenna!! You are so right about people being around for a season. I have had a lot of things that are finally starting to workout so I am putting it behind me and look for bigger and better things (and people). :)
There's a reason there's a saying about never mixing business with friendship ... I'm finding that a joint business venture with a friend of mine has become very stressful as well. We are both aware of it's affect on our friendship and are making time to be friends without working. IT IS POSSIBLY THE HARDEST THING I'VE EVER DONE! WOW! I can just say that it's super duper hard to maintain that, even when things are going well. I can't imagine how hard it was on you to have things fall through and then come to find out that the friendship didn't weather the storm.
I agree 100% with Nicole and wanted to add that time does heal some wounds. Years from now you might find yourself on more neutral ground with her and be able to enjoy a pleasant interaction again. :) Life is crazy and sometimes you just bob along and let the current carry you while you get your bearings.
I have had some friends in my life that dissolved the relationship with me as well, but one thing my mother always told me: don't be friends with no one that doesn't want to be friends with you. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff.
I have to say that everyone's responses are so great and supportive. That is what HER is all about! Losing a friend, and the emotions surrounding, to me, is just like grieving for any loss. There are times that you can rationalize the loss, know that you may be better off, yet, there can be time to grieve just the same. I especially think that it is easier when you realize that the person does not possess the level of friendship that you offer....if they aren't willing to talk and work things out! I think it's important to value yourself enough that you know it is their loss! I am currently working through some losses that occured many years ago, but never gave myself permission to grieve. Give yourself permission to grieve & permission to move on!